{"id":1854,"date":"2020-03-24T18:17:01","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T09:17:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/?p=1854"},"modified":"2020-03-24T18:56:03","modified_gmt":"2020-03-24T09:56:03","slug":"%e5%a5%b3%e6%80%a7%e3%81%ae%e5%bf%83%e3%81%ae%e7%94%9f%e3%81%8d%e6%ad%bb%e3%81%ab%e3%81%8c%e3%80%81%e7%a7%81%e3%81%ae%e4%b8%ad%e3%81%ae%e7%be%8e%e5%ae%b9-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/en\/archives\/1854","title":{"rendered":"Beauty Editor Chitose Matsumoto Talks Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><strong>Always Look for The Best in People<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>You\u2019ve been working in the beauty industry for a long time. Is this where your career began?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose<\/strong>\u3000Not exactly. I used to think I was more of the homemaker type, but I\u2019ve had quite the career path. After graduating from college, I initially became a flight attendant. I grew up during the height of the economy (bubble) in Japan, when there were ample jobs and opportunities. I applied for all sorts of things, and ultimately chose to be a flight attendant because it paid well and was exciting. After that, I worked at an ad agency before shifting over to the magazine world and staying there for thirteen years. I worked at two publications before eventually going freelance.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I understand why you took the flight attendant job. In youth, we often worry about financial security and the future.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose<\/strong>\u3000It\u2019s embarrassing, but I actually wasn\u2019t thinking that deep. I grew up in a very rural area of Japan and moved to Kobe to attend a private women\u2019s college where I was to major in the English language. On the very first day, I found out that I was the only person in class who had never gone overseas as a foreign exchange student. I cried that night from sheer embarrassment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A few years later, I graduated from college with a degree in English, but I still couldn\u2019t speak the language. I was jealous of my other classmates&#8217; success. I think I\u2019ve always had this tendency to envy people over things I don\u2019t have. Yet, I kept pushing on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When I started working as a flight attendant, I realized that I was surrounded by beautiful people that all looked like actors or models. It made me so insecure and miserable. But one day, and I\u2019m still not sure what came over me, I began seeing things from a whole new perspective. I wondered if I was just a master at finding beautiful qualities in others, which is a much more interesting and enriching way of looking at things.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Wow, what an amazing transition. You are indeed talented at finding people\u2019s most beautiful qualities.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose<\/strong>\u3000For example, I once bought a very expensive Hermes watch because it looked so great on my friend. Except when I wore it, it didn\u2019t look good at all.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Why do you think that is?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>It was just way too fancy for me. I really thought that purchasing it would make me more like this friend that I admired. But I found that what really mattered was what made the watch look that way on her, what qualities she possessed that allowed her to wear that watch. I remember telling her this entire story and about how wrong I was. I ended up giving the watch to my mother, and she\u2019s worn it ever since.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo<\/strong>\u3000Do you still find yourself feeling envy from time to time?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose<\/strong>\u3000Yes, of course.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>But openly admitting this allows you to be more honest with yourself and accept that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose<\/strong>\u3000Yes, absolutely. I told her I wanted to be like her in my next life!&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Well, that\u2019s great energy\u2014to want something. That\u2019s the art of living.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>You are right. Losing that lust for life can make it so dull.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"540\" height=\"338\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto-Image_02.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1686\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto-Image_02.jpg 540w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto-Image_02-300x188.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h3><strong>Finding Comfort in Silence<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I have to say, you totally defied my expectations when you showed up. I expected you to be much more formally dressed, yet you came in black top and jeans. Do you consciously choose strong or unexpected outfit choices to offset your delicate features?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Wow, you can read right through me. At first, I didn\u2019t realize that\u2019s what I was doing, but now I\u2019m much more aware, and even make a point of it.<\/p>\n<p>Just recently, I had lunch with seven other women. As I got up to leave, one of them asked me if I was alive and O.K. When I asked her what she meant, she told me that I didn\u2019t talk at all, it was as though I wasn\u2019t there. I was pretty stunned because I felt as though I was engaged. Another time, I was on a business trip with three other women, and one of them couldn\u2019t remember if I was even on the trip with them. I asked my best friend how she feels other people perceive me, and she agreed that I don\u2019t talk much\u2014I might come off as invisible. If someone had told me this when I was younger, I might have lost all self-esteem. But now, I\u2019m much more comfortable with this fact.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>How interesting.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Well, if someone asks me what I think, then I\u2019ll say what&#8217;s on my mind. But generally, I\u2019m not that outspoken. I enjoy listening to what people have to say, and I\u2019ll agree with what I agree with. I\u2019m much more comfortable that way.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3><strong>With Age Comes Wisdom<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Every month, I meet with the actress <a href=\"https:\/\/www.haruka-fan.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Haruka Igawa<\/a>.&nbsp; She is so inspiring, absolutely beautiful inside and out. I\u2019m always in awe of her.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>She is stunning. There\u2019s something timeless about her. Similarly, with Yuriko Ishida. They still look so natural despite their aging.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>I agree with that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>They\u2019re not trying too hard, but they\u2019re not totally giving up, either.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Yes, giving up is different from accepting and embracing. With age comes character, and that adds to your appeal. Who I was at age 25 is totally different from the person I am today. When you tune up a piano, their sound gets very sharp. But over time, it becomes much milder, softer. These women remind me of that phenomenon, and I find it so inspiring.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"540\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_03.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1689\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_03.jpg 540w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_03-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h3><strong>The Joys of Aging<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Do you know Yuka Itaya, the actress?&nbsp; Both Haruka Igawa and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.yuka-itaya.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Yuka Itaya<\/a> produce their own brand of clothing and they are really interested in fashion.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Fashion can be so fun and even life changing. Knowing how to wear clothes can make a tremendous difference in the way that you look.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>When I look at those two women, it makes me wonder if having a sense of style is more important than beauty.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I think clothes, makeup and hair are all meant to help someone look better.&nbsp; I don\u2019t think you necessarily need to separate beauty and fashion.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>That\u2019s an interesting philosophy that you\u2019ve always held.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Well, beauty plays a big part in all of our lives. You can have a ton of money, but if you don\u2019t understand beauty in all forms, then life loses all of its richness. It\u2019s important to teach what constitutes beauty early on in life. In contemporary Japan, I feel that so many people don\u2019t understand how to enjoy life\u2019s more beautiful moments.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>We have to be role models and show how beauty and happiness come as a packaged deal. It\u2019s important to enjoy each and every stage of your life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Especially when playing with fashion, it\u2019s crucial not to try too hard.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Right, you don\u2019t have to succumb to trends. Just being you is enough.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Trends can be challenging, especially if they don\u2019t work for you. Trying to incorporate every single one can be hard to pull off well, and also a lot of extra work.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Instagram definitely influences trends. While I don\u2019t dislike it, I truly feel as though the only \u201clike\u201d one needs is from their close family and friends.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I agree. The idea of \u201cliking\u201d something is incredible but can also be so dangerous. I often wonder about this issue particularly in the context of my younger daughter and her self-esteem. Even adults struggle with it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Yes, it\u2019s a dilemma because many people do not have the emotional intelligence to handle it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Especially children, who are often naive and don\u2019t understand boundaries.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>It\u2019s easy for me to detach from social media because it\u2019s not really a part of my generation. But I feel bad for people who are so addicted to it and can\u2019t let it go.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I wish people would reinvest in human connection and use social media mainly as a secondary form of communication.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3><strong>The Multiplicity of Beauty<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>While I love working in the beauty industry, I sometimes find myself questioning my role and the advice I\u2019ve given. I spent years writing about how to look attractive, fixating on specific ideals such as having bigger eyes. I regret saying some of these things now.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Personally, I think the entire industry\u2019s attitude needs to shift. Social media definitely changes the ways we can communicate with real people and is also transforming the ways that we view beauty. All types of people are now represented in such positive ways.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>So much needs to be done to change attitudes. Because I\u2019m a freelancer, I typically work at home all day and then go out for dinner at night. In order to refresh myself, I\u2019ll get dressed and put on makeup. But going on a commuter train during evening rush hour made me realize how tired people look. Women will get right off of work then go home and cook and clean for the rest of the evening. It\u2019s an exhausting way to live, and I really respect and admire them. They remind me that you don\u2019t need perfect nails, hair, or makeup, and that it\u2019s O.K. to be perfectly imperfect. Doing the best you can is fine.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Yes, there are definitely all kinds of beauty. So, what you\u2019re saying is that real beauty comes from within?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Absolutely. That is the message we have to spread.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A male editor I once worked with told me about how women often become obsessed with the latest beauty trends and follow them to great lengths even if they don\u2019t suit them. After hearing this information, my industry friends and I started doing self-checkups where we ask each other if we look O.K. without trying too hard.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>I think that real women want professionals to be honest.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Well, in my opinion, I think you have to be self-aware and not too influenced by what\u2019s mainstream. Hold your own and focus on what works for you.&nbsp; Otherwise, you become a fashion victim.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3><strong>Finding the Perfect in Imperfect<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>What are some of your favorite products?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Today, I brought with me a cleansing lotion and a <a href=\"https:\/\/onlineshop.suqqu.com\/shopbrand\/sunscreen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Suqqu sunscreen<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>This <a href=\"https:\/\/brand.shiseido.co.jp\/white-lucent-day-emulsion-4514254087879.html\">Shiseido cleansing lotion<\/a> made me love my skin. I refuse to go out without sunscreen\u2014not only does it protect me from UV rays, but it also prevents blemishes and wrinkles. I use it as a preventative measure. I also love <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sisley-paris.com\/ja-JP\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sisley Paris\u2019s<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sisley-paris.com\/ja-JP\/sisleya-integral-rich-3473311502506.html\">face<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sisley-paris.com\/ja-JP\/sisleya-integral-rich-3473311502506.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">eye creams<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"360\" height=\"201\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_04.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1691\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_04.jpg 360w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_04-300x168.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"360\" height=\"240\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_05.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1692\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_05.jpg 360w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_05-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Your skin looks moist and well hydrated. Do you normally have dry skin?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>I used to have problematic skin, but it\u2019s improved as I\u2019ve aged.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;I cherish things that age with time and keeping them around reminds me it is a natural process. I adore these ceramic pieces.&nbsp; The reds are supposed to be mistakes from the firing process. But I love it and I bought it because it\u2019s one of a kind.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"360\" height=\"248\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_06.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1693\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_06.jpg 360w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_06-300x207.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>Who says that imperfections aren\u2019t good?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Right? That\u2019s what I say. I\u2019ve been wearing this necklace a lot more frequently because of how many ways you can style it. There\u2019s no wrong way to do it, which I feel exemplifies my feelings on personal beauty.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"540\" height=\"182\" src=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_07.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1708\" srcset=\"https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_07.jpg 540w, https:\/\/unmixlove.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Matsumoto_Image_07-300x101.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h3><strong>Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Yasuo<\/strong>\u3000What made you choose to work in beauty over fashion?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>I sort of fell into it. When I worked at the ad agency, I was in charge of cosmetic branding. Then as an editor, I was mainly assigned articles about beauty. So, it was a natural path. At a certain point, I came to appreciate the power of beauty.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>How so?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>I once interviewed a researcher for<a href=\"https:\/\/www.shiseido.co.jp\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Shiseido<\/a>. He told me that for many years, he considered his job in cosmetic research and development to be inferior to medical researchers, until he saw a TV commercial for the company. It was about a woman struggling with depression, and how applying lipstick brought light back into her eyes and smile. After seeing that, he realized his work is as meaningful as that done in the medical field.&nbsp; Although his job doesn\u2019t save lives, beauty matters just like life or death. It made me realize how lightly I was taking my own work, and that I actually have a responsibility to present products as healers for the soul rather than just photographing them and nonchalantly introducing them. It changed my entire mindset about the role.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>For many women, cosmetics are a way of living. They\u2019re about self-care and self-enhancement, and ultimately embracing the life you want. I believe that all women are pure at every age, and I want them to accept getting older and just adapt to whatever comes their way. It would be amazing to stop seeing anti-aging advertisements in our world. That\u2019s just one of the ways that the negative mindset around age can truly stop.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>Beauty is about embracing life. I\u2019m also disturbed by the negative tropes that the media often promotes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yasuo\u3000<\/strong>We have to collectively send out positive messages in order to change people\u2019s attitudes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chitose\u3000<\/strong>And I think that is possible with today\u2019s youth. I\u2019m inspired by this new generation of young women who are embracing their individual beauty in so many different ways, because at the end of the day, that\u2019s truly most important. I look forward to continuing that conversation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Photos \/ Interview :&nbsp; Yasuo Yoshikawa<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Text :&nbsp; Mikako Koyama<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Always Look for The Best in People Yasuo\u3000You\u2019ve been working in the beauty industry for a long time. Is this where your career began? Chitose\u3000Not exactly. I used to think I was more of the homemaker type, but I\u2019ve had quite the career path. After graduating from college, I initially became a flight attendant. I grew up during the height of the economy (bubble) in Japan, when there were ample jobs and opportunities. I applied for all sorts of things, and ultimately chose to be a flight attendant because it paid well and was exciting. After that, I worked at an ad agency before shifting over to the magazine world and staying there for thirteen years. I worked at two publications before eventually going freelance.&nbsp;&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000I understand why you took the flight attendant job. In youth, we often worry about financial security and the future.&nbsp;&nbsp; Chitose\u3000It\u2019s embarrassing, but I actually wasn\u2019t thinking that deep. I grew up in a very rural area of Japan and moved to Kobe to attend a private women\u2019s college where I was to major in the English language. On the very first day, I found out that I was the only person in class who had never gone overseas as a foreign exchange student. I cried that night from sheer embarrassment.&nbsp; A few years later, I graduated from college with a degree in English, but I still couldn\u2019t speak the language. I was jealous of my other classmates&#8217; success. I think I\u2019ve always had this tendency to envy people over things I don\u2019t have. Yet, I kept pushing on.&nbsp; When I started working as a flight attendant, I realized that I was surrounded by beautiful people that all looked like actors or models. It made me so insecure and miserable. But one day, and I\u2019m still not sure what came over me, I began seeing things from a whole new perspective. I wondered if I was just a master at finding beautiful qualities in others, which is a much more interesting and enriching way of looking at things. Yasuo\u3000Wow, what an amazing transition. You are indeed talented at finding people\u2019s most beautiful qualities.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000For example, I once bought a very expensive Hermes watch because it looked so great on my friend. Except when I wore it, it didn\u2019t look good at all. Yasuo\u3000Why do you think that is? Chitose\u3000It was just way too fancy for me. I really thought that purchasing it would make me more like this friend that I admired. But I found that what really mattered was what made the watch look that way on her, what qualities she possessed that allowed her to wear that watch. I remember telling her this entire story and about how wrong I was. I ended up giving the watch to my mother, and she\u2019s worn it ever since. Yasuo\u3000Do you still find yourself feeling envy from time to time?&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Yes, of course.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000But openly admitting this allows you to be more honest with yourself and accept that. Chitose\u3000Yes, absolutely. I told her I wanted to be like her in my next life!&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000Well, that\u2019s great energy\u2014to want something. That\u2019s the art of living.&nbsp;&nbsp; Chitose\u3000You are right. Losing that lust for life can make it so dull. Finding Comfort in Silence Yasuo\u3000I have to say, you totally defied my expectations when you showed up. I expected you to be much more formally dressed, yet you came in black top and jeans. Do you consciously choose strong or unexpected outfit choices to offset your delicate features? Chitose\u3000Wow, you can read right through me. At first, I didn\u2019t realize that\u2019s what I was doing, but now I\u2019m much more aware, and even make a point of it. Just recently, I had lunch with seven other women. As I got up to leave, one of them asked me if I was alive and O.K. When I asked her what she meant, she told me that I didn\u2019t talk at all, it was as though I wasn\u2019t there. I was pretty stunned because I felt as though I was engaged. Another time, I was on a business trip with three other women, and one of them couldn\u2019t remember if I was even on the trip with them. I asked my best friend how she feels other people perceive me, and she agreed that I don\u2019t talk much\u2014I might come off as invisible. If someone had told me this when I was younger, I might have lost all self-esteem. But now, I\u2019m much more comfortable with this fact.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000How interesting.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Well, if someone asks me what I think, then I\u2019ll say what&#8217;s on my mind. But generally, I\u2019m not that outspoken. I enjoy listening to what people have to say, and I\u2019ll agree with what I agree with. I\u2019m much more comfortable that way. With Age Comes Wisdom Chitose\u3000Every month, I meet with the actress Haruka Igawa.&nbsp; She is so inspiring, absolutely beautiful inside and out. I\u2019m always in awe of her.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000She is stunning. There\u2019s something timeless about her. Similarly, with Yuriko Ishida. They still look so natural despite their aging. Chitose\u3000I agree with that. Yasuo\u3000They\u2019re not trying too hard, but they\u2019re not totally giving up, either. Chitose\u3000Yes, giving up is different from accepting and embracing. With age comes character, and that adds to your appeal. Who I was at age 25 is totally different from the person I am today. When you tune up a piano, their sound gets very sharp. But over time, it becomes much milder, softer. These women remind me of that phenomenon, and I find it so inspiring. The Joys of Aging Chitose\u3000Do you know Yuka Itaya, the actress?&nbsp; Both Haruka Igawa and Yuka Itaya produce their own brand of clothing and they are really interested in fashion. Yasuo\u3000Fashion can be so fun and even life changing. Knowing how to wear clothes can make a tremendous difference in the way that you look.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000When I look at those two women, it makes me wonder if having a sense of style is more important than beauty. Yasuo\u3000I think clothes, makeup and hair are all meant to help someone look better.&nbsp; I don\u2019t think you necessarily need to separate beauty and fashion. Chitose\u3000That\u2019s an interesting philosophy that you\u2019ve always held. Yasuo\u3000Well, beauty plays a big part in all of our lives. You can have a ton of money, but if you don\u2019t understand beauty in all forms, then life loses all of its richness. It\u2019s important to teach what constitutes beauty early on in life. In contemporary Japan, I feel that so many people don\u2019t understand how to enjoy life\u2019s more beautiful moments.&nbsp;&nbsp; Chitose\u3000We have to be role models and show how beauty and happiness come as a packaged deal. It\u2019s important to enjoy each and every stage of your life.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000Especially when playing with fashion, it\u2019s crucial not to try too hard.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Right, you don\u2019t have to succumb to trends. Just being you is enough.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000Trends can be challenging, especially if they don\u2019t work for you. Trying to incorporate every single one can be hard to pull off well, and also a lot of extra work. Chitose\u3000Instagram definitely influences trends. While I don\u2019t dislike it, I truly feel as though the only \u201clike\u201d one needs is from their close family and friends.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000I agree. The idea of \u201cliking\u201d something is incredible but can also be so dangerous. I often wonder about this issue particularly in the context of my younger daughter and her self-esteem. Even adults struggle with it.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Yes, it\u2019s a dilemma because many people do not have the emotional intelligence to handle it. Yasuo\u3000Especially children, who are often naive and don\u2019t understand boundaries. Chitose\u3000It\u2019s easy for me to detach from social media because it\u2019s not really a part of my generation. But I feel bad for people who are so addicted to it and can\u2019t let it go. Yasuo\u3000I wish people would reinvest in human connection and use social media mainly as a secondary form of communication.&nbsp;&nbsp; The Multiplicity of Beauty Chitose\u3000While I love working in the beauty industry, I sometimes find myself questioning my role and the advice I\u2019ve given. I spent years writing about how to look attractive, fixating on specific ideals such as having bigger eyes. I regret saying some of these things now. Yasuo\u3000Personally, I think the entire industry\u2019s attitude needs to shift. Social media definitely changes the ways we can communicate with real people and is also transforming the ways that we view beauty. All types of people are now represented in such positive ways.&nbsp; Chitose\u3000So much needs to be done to change attitudes. Because I\u2019m a freelancer, I typically work at home all day and then go out for dinner at night. In order to refresh myself, I\u2019ll get dressed and put on makeup. But going on a commuter train during evening rush hour made me realize how tired people look. Women will get right off of work then go home and cook and clean for the rest of the evening. It\u2019s an exhausting way to live, and I really respect and admire them. They remind me that you don\u2019t need perfect nails, hair, or makeup, and that it\u2019s O.K. to be perfectly imperfect. Doing the best you can is fine.&nbsp;&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000Yes, there are definitely all kinds of beauty. So, what you\u2019re saying is that real beauty comes from within?&nbsp;&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Absolutely. That is the message we have to spread.&nbsp; A male editor I once worked with told me about how women often become obsessed with the latest beauty trends and follow them to great lengths even if they don\u2019t suit them. After hearing this information, my industry friends and I started doing self-checkups where we ask each other if we look O.K. without trying too hard. Yasuo\u3000I think that real women want professionals to be honest. Chitose\u3000Well, in my opinion, I think you have to be self-aware and not too influenced by what\u2019s mainstream. Hold your own and focus on what works for you.&nbsp; Otherwise, you become a fashion victim. Finding the Perfect in Imperfect Yasuo\u3000What are some of your favorite products?&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Today, I brought with me a cleansing lotion and a Suqqu sunscreen. This Shiseido cleansing lotion made me love my skin. I refuse to go out without sunscreen\u2014not only does it protect me from UV rays, but it also prevents blemishes and wrinkles. I use it as a preventative measure. I also love Sisley Paris\u2019s face and eye creams. Yasuo\u3000Your skin looks moist and well hydrated. Do you normally have dry skin? Chitose\u3000I used to have problematic skin, but it\u2019s improved as I\u2019ve aged. &nbsp;I cherish things that age with time and keeping them around reminds me it is a natural process. I adore these ceramic pieces.&nbsp; The reds are supposed to be mistakes from the firing process. But I love it and I bought it because it\u2019s one of a kind. Yasuo\u3000Who says that imperfections aren\u2019t good?&nbsp; Chitose\u3000Right? That\u2019s what I say. I\u2019ve been wearing this necklace a lot more frequently because of how many ways you can style it. There\u2019s no wrong way to do it, which I feel exemplifies my feelings on personal beauty.&nbsp; Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life Yasuo\u3000What made you choose to work in beauty over fashion? Chitose\u3000I sort of fell into it. When I worked at the ad agency, I was in charge of cosmetic branding. Then as an editor, I was mainly assigned articles about beauty. So, it was a natural path. At a certain point, I came to appreciate the power of beauty.&nbsp; Yasuo\u3000How so?&nbsp; Chitose\u3000I once interviewed a researcher for Shiseido. He told me that for many years, he considered his job in cosmetic research and development to be inferior to medical researchers, until he saw a TV commercial for the company. It was about a woman struggling with depression, and how applying lipstick brought light back into her eyes and smile. 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